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By: Siobhan Toner | October 25, 2017

It's been a beautiful sunny day here in London and I have noticed how much it has lifted my mood.

The sky is clear and blue; the temperature is mild but with a gentle breeze running across my skin and keeping me feeling cool and fresh.

I'm comparing it to a recent day which was wet but sticky and very very grey and I felt nasty, sweaty and with soaking clothes by 9am in the morning that I had to stay in all day.

The impact on how I am going about day due to the weather is huge. I feel less stressed, more at ease and taking the time to enjoy the sunshine and the world around me.

The other day I just had my head down and tried to avoid the environment as much as possible.

How much do you notice the weather and what impact does it have on your...

By: Siobhan Toner | October 13, 2017

Ex-school governor who imported child sex doll is jailed

This case really brings home to me how pervasive child abuse is and the ingenuity of the perpetrators.

It has no limits in terms of social economic class and position. Yet there is still I feel a belief amongst some people that it wouldn't happen in their society or peer group.

In some of the reporting on the allegations against Ted Heath (former PM) one of his friends was quoted as saying something like "I knew him for 50 years and didn't get a hint of anything like this". But isn't that the point! Why would you get a hint if you aren't part of it.

Abusers are skilled and able manipulator who can hide their crimes from all around them. To assume because you didn't know abou...

By: Siobhan Toner | October 06, 2017

What's it really like to have counselling?

This is the question that so many people have before they start.

We see so many portrayals of it in the media, some positive, some not.

It doesn't have to include a couch! My office for my face to face does have one but most people just sit on it.

In our initial assessment I will have some things that we need to cover. The first is around my contract and boundaries of confidential. This is to ensure you know what you are working and ensures you feel safe with those. It wouldn't be ethical for me to let you tell me loads of things that I then have to disclose as you didn't know I would have to do that.

The second thing I like to get a feel for is why you want to come to counselling. Not everyone sa...